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I used to be all about return protocols until I got married. My ADHD wife has an entirely different “everything should be left wherever you last used it, and there are only stages” anti-protocol that has the 2nd law on its side, so it’s now been 20 years of tension between her taking stuff out of cabinets when they catch her eye and spark an impulse (“ooh cake pan, I’ll bake a cake!”) and leaving them around and me putting them back (at which point she considers them “lost” and needs me to find them again). If I ever organize her visible chaos for her, she just fills up the newly cleared staging spaces with more shopping. As far as she’s concerned there are no storages and structures in the universe. It’s all stages. Out of sight = blinks out of existence.

Shows up in inbox style too. Her email is 100% in inbox, literally 1000s. Mine valiantly striving for inbox zero all the time and hovers between 30 to 300 these days.

Given it’s an uphill battle on my end, I’d say I’ve mostly given up.

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